Many years ago I googled that question into the computer monitor at my university’s lab. It was late and the lab was empty like always when midterms were finished. The tap-tap-tap of my keystrokes echoed off the white-walled room.
The results confirmed what my friends and Japanese room mate, Ami, had all said: Japanese guys are shy. You have to be patient. They don’t show their feelings.
I leaned back in the swivel chair and stared at the ceiling. Is that true? I wondered.
I struggled to believe it. But that’s what everyone told me, even Google.
With a heavy sigh, I logged out and headed home for the night.
I was no closer to an answer.