This post was inspired by another blogger’s post.
(And I accidentally deleted half of when I tried to put the rest as “more reading”)
It feels like we get trained these days to “never show our hurt”. We’re taught to bottle it up and contain ourself. Here in Japan this is especially true.
At my friend’s church, they had a “share your feelings” session once. She was the only of two westerners. Everyone else was Japanese. One by one they stood up and shared something positive.
Finally, it was her turn and she shared about a recent misfortune in her life. The story was meant to be uplifting, how she overcome her tragedy and become stronger for it. However, the preacher finally stopped her mid-story and asked her “why share that? Do you want us to feel sad for you?”